@CoatClosetCommando wrote:
Is this what I should expect from people that are experienced? Rude responses and directives that tell me what I should and shouldn't do? Is there any way to block people from sending personal messages that are unprovoked and unwarranted? Can someone of reasonable intelligence (unlike this person) at least give guidance as to how to avoid further cyber bullying within this forum?
I want to learn from experienced people, yet this poster now has zero credibility in anything that she says even if she was God herself. I expected this treatment from Volition.com, not here.
@kimmiemae wrote:
It was probably moved to this part of the forum because it has to do with this part of the forum.
@AustinMom wrote:
Is this what we can expect from you? Rude, judgemental posts about others that many of us don't really care to read? And then crying like a 4-year old because you received a PM with advice you didn't want?
The appropriate way to handle a PM that you do not want is to tell the sender you do not want PMs from her. A single unwanted PM certainly does not rise to the level of cyber bullying, but, if you feel it was abusive, it would be appropriate to report it to a moderator or to forward it to the forum owner, JacobJ.
Instead you start an attention-seeking thread to tell the world you feel cyber bullied. Talk about overkill and overstatement! IMHO, your post constitutes a personal attack and I have reported it to the moderator. Oh, and -- you have zero credibility as far as I am concerned. .
@MDavisnowell wrote:
I regret if anyone feels bullied on the forum but in this case it was not on the forum. From what the OP posted, it seems it was a PM and those are personal and one to one. I'd give the more experienced forum member the benefit of the doubt and believe they meant to be helpful. If they meant to be mean to you, they would have posted on the forum.
Perhaps you're overreacting to the intent of the PM and perhaps it included some good advice that you don't want to hear. Or perhaps the PM jumped all over you and stomped you in the dirt. We can't know.
If you feel the PM was truly out of line you could, of course, report it to Jacob and if it was grossly insulting or bullying you should do that. If it was simply something you don't want to hear, I believe the best thing to do would be to not respond.
We disagree with one another daily and some of us are a tad rough around the edges. That doesn't mean we can't get along and help each other, which we do most of the time. Older members very frequently jump in with advice to newer members. We think we're helping.
Whenever you don't agree, just say so. Most of us are not sensitive, and those of us who are sensitive are entertaining. Win win.
@parkcitybrian wrote:
for once...i had nothing, zero, nada, zilch to do with this most recent cluster#$@%. i am completely, utterly, without question blameless (for a change, eh?). it's a kinder, gentler & less snarky me.
@parkcitybrian wrote:
for once...i had nothing, zero, nada, zilch to do with this most recent cluster#$@%. i am completely, utterly, without question blameless (for a change, eh?). it's a kinder, gentler & less snarky me.
@BuffaloNY101 wrote:
so which one is the mormon you parkcitybrian?
@COMystery wrote:
CoatCloset - First off, sorry that you have lost a family member. I've read your original post as seeking advice. If you were being snarky you would have called out the offending forum member by name. To me, AustinMom's post is an example of bullying; there are nice ways to get your point across. Referring to you as a 4-year old cry baby was uncalled for. This forum should be used to help each other grow in this industry, not to be mean to others. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. I question the intent of anyone sending an unsolicited PM (whether it be one PM or more). To me that indicates that whatever they are saying, they don't want others to read. If they are providing advice that may be beneficial, why not post for everyone to read. Hang in there - there are nice people on this forum who truly have a desire to help others. Just watch - I'm likely to get slammed for my opinion. :>~
@COMystery wrote:
Totally gross, but admittedly funny. I don't think it qualifies as bullying, but possibly as discrimination against Polish women.