It should be pointed out that the OP edited their post to remove the "white" reference that was made that ~ inadvertently ~ stirred up the argument that ensued.
So if a reader comes along, who hasn't been reading/following this thread from the very beginning; and that reader goes back to read the OP to see what triggered the subsequent remarks, they'll be left wondering, "WTH?"
It was the simple addition of the descriptor 'white' to the following sentence... "Yes, I'm a (white) female by myself." That fact wasn't expounded on in the slightest, it was just stated just like that.
Myself, I can see some of the points being made on each side. But, one has to consider intent. I really don't think the OP's intent was racist in the slightest. Just as she has explained. Editing her original post shows that she's sensitive to the fact that some feathers were ruffled, no matter that she had no intent to do so (IMO). And as someone up above pointed out, sometimes race is that blatant ~ in all directions.
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