Kamarkin thank you for the spelling check.
anywhoo my ex-husband and I had this argument often. He said I was a strict parent and should let kids be kids. We went to his sisters house who followed the current school system. Her kids were screaming, throwing tantrum and down right uncivil. The 18 month old didn't speak a word just grunted. The 3 year old kept throwing food around and couldn't sit still for the life of him. The 5 year old thought it fun to beat every one up, eat when he wanted to, and didn't know colors, letters or complete sentences. I was there for 2 days before I "snapped".
I began sign language with the 18 month old. If she wanted the bottle, a grunt didn't cut it. She had to ask for it. And she learned quick the signs for bottle, hungry, diaper, mom, dad, yes and no. The 3 year old learned sign language and basic speaking and basic eating skills. The five year old went over my knee 3 times. When I was about to do it a fourth time, he stopped the crap. He learned colors and everything else a 5 year old about to go to school should know.
I was there for 14 days. By the time I left, these 3 had manners, basic knowledge, and were no longer angry. They could speak and be heard and understood. My sis-in-law was fuming that I "took over". She had said that she was told by the doctors that it was the teachers job to teach the children. I looked at her and said plainly: you are the teacher. you are the mom and what is a mom or a dad but a teacher.
His family never really liked me. Stated I was going against the grain, a radical and other comments. I asked for a video from my sister with her wee ones. Anytime my ex began being upset about my "strict parenting", I would pull the video of his sisters kids vs my sisters kids. My entire family believed that you read to the womb, ask the cradle what it wants and an ol' fashion glare should sit any child. There shouldn't be a reason to hit a child if you have the right look starting at a young age.
but I digress. this topic was suppose to be about schedulers not school systems. Maybe it's me however don't the two go hand in hand?
To answer your question, I have no kids of my own. I am infertile which is why my ex left me - long story. I helped raise another sisters children however. I also rescue aggressive pups and make them into functioning members of society. Everyone/thing needs to learn and be heard. Everyone/thing needs some way to communicate. To stop the rage, you have to start the listening and communication. With over crowded schools, under paid and over whelmed teachers how can we hear a child's real voice.
Just lost trying to find a fire pit in a concrete jungle wishing it was a wooded glen...
if it wasn't for bad luck, I would have no luck at all
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 04/23/2014 02:59PM by gypsymonkey.