LisaSTL Wrote:
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> I must have missed something in the original post.
> Like where this guy has been her mail carrier for
> years and years and they have developed some sort
> of relationship. My current mail carrier has been
> delivering here for a few years. I don't consider
> seeing each other briefly and saying hello or
> commenting on the weather to be a relationship.
>
> As to "overhearing" a conversation and commenting.
> Overhearing easily turns into eavesdropping and
> making a comment is not friendly, it is invasive.
> During my time in cubicle world, it was understood
> a conversation at your desk did not provide
> absolute privacy, but as a matter of courtesy we
> would tune each other out and never, ever made
> comments or offered opinions without being asked.
>
>
> It is interesting that through all of this we are
> being told that people in certain parts of the
> country are friendlier or kinder to their
> neighbors or more charitable. Why all the
> allusions to moral superiority regarding a simple
> business decision?
LisaSTL, I am not at all thinking that California has superior moral beings in it. In fact, I have lived in many places and find that in California it is harder to make a true friend than most other places I have lived. However, people here are fairly friendly to strangers compared to other places I have lived. I have had this conversation with many other people here and most of them agree to the above. Of course it is a generalization that is not true everywhere.
I am also really glad that in my cubicle situation people do share with each other. It is not a mandate. Certainly someone can ask a cubicle neighbor not to speak with them on topics they overhear and generally people do not butt in on personal type conversations. But there are often people standing next to a nearby cubicle and they do include others at my place of work when they pass by or are already nearby. I find that to be a friendly attitude and am glad to have that atmosphere where I am.
As the mail person situation, I do not know how well the OP knows her mail person. My mail persons sometimes have the same route for years, even when I lived in other states and countries. But I believe she did say she felt bad afterwards and was asking what others thought. I knew my answer would be controversial to some, but that is the purpose of this forum and for the question...to have different points of view chime in.