@DavePi wrote:
I had an undesirable experience with a homeless guy at a mcdonalds shop. Guy stroked up a conversation with me, talked about Jesus, and at the end he wanted me to give him money to buy a mcfish sandwich. I only had a few dollars on me so I offered him 2 dollars. He asked for more money to buy the mcfish sandwich and said if I had a debit/credit card, which I didn't have on me. Kept insisting that I drove a nice car and implying I had money on me. When I drove back home, I pondered the situation and realized that the guy was doing his whole nice/religious guy act in order for me to feel guilty and give him money at the end.
That whole experience turned me off from giving money to the homeless.
@ceasesmith wrote:
I don't know where you are, but where I am, you CANNOT get food stamps/EBT unless you have an address and ACCESS to a kitchen where you can cook. I'm not really sure of the reasoning behind that. Also there are restrictions -- you can't use them to purchase "prepared food", like in a restaurant. But you certainly can buy plenty of sodas and chips and cookies and "processed" food. Obviously, if you're homeless, you don't have an address, or access to a kitchen or other "cooking facility". And since you're homeless, by definition you don't have a refrigerator or storage, so you must get food every DAY, or buy food that can be kept without refrigeration or safe storage.
Haven't you ever heard of "food deserts"? Many people -- not just homeless -- have limited access to healthy food.
I have been homeless and without income. But I had a CAR, which made me infinitely wealthy compared to others. I HAVE begged for food; I have stood in a parking lot and told passers-by "I'm sorry to bother you, but I lost my job, and I have no money. I am hungry. I have $2, and I can get a chicken in WalMart for $5. Could you possibly spare $3?" No one was ever rude. In fact, the kindness of most people left me in tears.
There is no soup kitchen within 60 miles of me.
The closest food pantry is 12 miles away.
There was no public transit system until last year; we now have a bus that will deliver commodities and food bank boxes. The bus charges $5 per delivery. The $5 fee is covered by donors for those who cannot afford it; but these are NOT homeless people. The bus delivers to HOMES.
According to government "health statistics" that I read somewhere last week, about 19% of the adult population smokes cigarettes -- and 78% of those smokers live at income levels below Federal "poverty" levels. Only 1 in 11 of people who make more than $75,000 a year smokes cigarettes.
I didn't mean to rant, but I have been "down and out" -- and I feel that if someone hasn't been, they have no right to judge. You know, the old "walk a mile in his shoes" saying -- if you haven't been there, you have no idea how demeaning/degrading the whole thing is.
If you want to donate, I suggest The Salvation Army. They go directly to where the homeless are and hand out mittens, blankets, warm hats, and sandwiches, with no strings attached. And they do it without judgement and with GREAT compassion.
I know, because I was a recipient.
@HonnyBrown wrote:
DavePi mentioned his card, and he felt he was entitled to his funds! Dave has a nice car and a card, so you deserve his money? That he worked for???
BYE
@HonnyBrown wrote:
DavePi mentioned his card, and he felt he was entitled to his funds! Dave has a nice car and a card, so you deserve his money? That he worked for???
BYE
@HonnyBrown wrote:
I gave a homeless person an apple I had left over from lunch. He threw it at me when I walked away.
@ceasesmith wrote:
Cats aren't people.
@Morledzep wrote:
@HonnyBrown wrote:
I gave a homeless person an apple I had left over from lunch. He threw it at me when I walked away.
LOL. Are you in CA? Only place I've ever been that homeless folks don't appreciate what is offered.
@isaiah58 wrote:
@HonnyBrown wrote:
DavePi mentioned his card, and he felt he was entitled to his funds! Dave has a nice car and a card, so you deserve his money? That he worked for???
BYE
Dave can speak for himself. You do not need to be confrontational or in any way interpret what I or he meant. The man did not ask for David's card, he did imply that David could afford to buy him a fish sandwich as apparently $2 wasn't enough. I am not sure what "BYE" means and I am pretty sure you do not have the discipline to leave things be.
If I offended you, for trying to educate you as to how your actions towards others could have been offensive, then I doubt I will in any way further help you understand things like compassion.
@calicakes wrote:
I tried to give a homeless guy a bagel in Santa Monica and he asked me what kind. I said " Onion" and he said Do you have any cinnamon raisin. I said no. He shook his head no. Only in Cali.
@HonnyBrown wrote:
In Venice Beach, I was sitting in my car waiting for a friend. I was parked in front of the restaurant was people watching for a bit. I saw a homeless man go into the trashcan by the restaurant, remove a styrofoam container and taste the food, and threw the container back in the trash. Then he spit the food in the trash.
When my friend got there, I told her we were going somewhere else. I gave him some cash for the review.
@calicakes wrote:
I tried to give a homeless guy a bagel in Santa Monica and he asked me what kind. I said " Onion" and he said Do you have any cinnamon raisin. I said no. He shook his head no. Only in Cali.
@catgrannyof5 wrote:
I keep some bottled water and some packaged foods like Pop Tarts, Granola bars or something similar in my car. When I see some homeless person standing on the sidewalk or by the intersection to enter the freeway, I offered them the extra food. I give them a couple of the food items, not the entire box that it came in. I don't give out cash. Whenever there's a special sale on food items at my regular workplace, I would get a couple of the boxes that I can afford to buy and give out. I work at a club warehouse for my regular job. Example of special sale/markdown price- Poptarts, club sized box, marked down to $2.41 or club sized individual juice boxes, marked down to $1.91.
Too funny. Not everyone likes apples, homeless or not. Or maybe the person was warming up his/her arm to pitch for a softball game. Or maybe he/she has no teeth to actually bite into the apple. I have seen the "no teeth" scenario more times than I care to remember.@HonnyBrown wrote:
I gave a homeless person an apple I had left over from lunch. He threw it at me when I walked away.
I agree 100%, Homeless people are still people. Just like disabled people are still people. I will ask a homeless person if they are hungry or thirsty (for a non-alcoholic beverage.) The majority of them are happy to have the choice given to them. When I see a disabled person struggling with a task, I do not just take charge but I will ask them if they need any help. Most of them will turn me down but they thank me for asking.@eyelove2shop wrote:
People often think because someone is homeless they should accept anything given to them. They are still people and should be treated as such.
Sometimes they need money for medicine and sanitary items such a tampons or even clothes, or dog food.
I always ask before I offer and if I'm feeling extra generous I'll invite someone to come with me while I buy them a meal and I'll allow them to order.
no such thing as free. Somebody is paying for it.@shoptastic wrote:
America has a very, very poor record in my opinion on treating its poor with government assistance. Every modern nation has free healthcare and usually a better social safety net.
@calicakes wrote:
I tried to give a homeless guy a bagel in Santa Monica and he asked me what kind. I said " Onion" and he said Do you have any cinnamon raisin. I said no. He shook his head no. Only in Cali.