@JASFLALMT wrote:
My husband tells me how beautiful I am when I wake up in the morning, and he says it like he really means it And when I tell him that I love him, often he says, "I love you more." Now that's romantic.
'zactly. Love languages. Much more romantic to me to do some of my chores to give me free time than to whisper sweet nothings in my ear or give me a gift. Other people feel differently. As long as both people in the relationship understand what each other wants/needs, it works.@Shop-et-al wrote:
Some people (but not JASFLALMT!!!) do perceive that doing dishes and laundry are lightening a load and being loving and therefore being romantic. Some say that it gives them time for romance that they would not otherwise have. Other people would like to be told something "romantic". They want to hear about romance. There are three or four other categories of romantic preference.
Maybe offensive to you; that doesn't mean it was universally offensive.@LisaSTL wrote:
I'm not arguing the concept of couple's, housemates or anyone else divvying up chores in whatever way works for them. It was the perpetuation of a long dead 1950's stereotype that was offensive. Thank goodness most people have evolved.
@Iamme wrote:
Why is it offensive when two people, in their own relationship, determine what is romantic? Why does anyone assume it is the woman who is being put down? Is a male who is the more domestic one then also considered an underclass? Often times relationship, male/female or same sex, have one spouse who does more cleaning than the other. Is it really anyone's concern how a couple chooses to function as long as they both agree?
@Iamme wrote:
I think if we all look deep inside we will find that each of us is guilty of some level of stereotyping.
there are bigger stress in life than hijacking threads in ms forum.@JASFLALMT wrote:
I'm sorry Ms. Ninja for diverting the thread in this manner.
im op of this thread but i have no idea what u r talking about.@Shop-et-al wrote:
Perhaps the OP deserves credit for learning within and from his own marriage. As it turns out, the OP's situation is not unique and a male person authored an informed book that explained why this is so.
The OP made another point, indirectly. Humans can and sometimes do learn throughout life.
@MSNinja wrote:
im op of this thread but i have no idea what u r talking about.@Shop-et-al wrote:
Perhaps the OP deserves credit for learning within and from his own marriage. As it turns out, the OP's situation is not unique and a male person authored an informed book that explained why this is so.
The OP made another point, indirectly. Humans can and sometimes do learn throughout life.