@Irene_L.A. wrote:

My answer to Op is as follows: turn your negative nasty thread around and make it about you...pathetic, lonely, and maybe wishing you had a child to brag about.....how do you feel now? #find love and peace.

I don't believe I have ever openly criticized you in any threads. Please quote me if you can find any posts where I am rude or disrespectful to you to this level.

Your comments above say more about you than they do about me.

@Catnap wrote:

Please quote me if you can find any posts where I am rude or disrespectful to you to this level.

So you're admitting you have been rude and disrespectful and your argument is just that the level of rudeness and disrespect was ok?

@bgriffin wrote:

@Catnap wrote:

Please quote me if you can find any posts where I am rude or disrespectful to you to this level.

So you're admitting you have been rude and disrespectful and your argument is just that the level of rudeness and disrespect was ok?

If @Irene can quote any instance where I have been rude or disrespectful at any level to her, she is free to quote me. I don't believe it exists.

Catnap, if this is not about shopping then why bring it here?

@iShop123 wrote:

You sure, JAS? There are two or three who have me wondering.

Yeah, I am pretty darned sure. I know Syb was harsh, but I also don't think she would "hide" under another name. And, if she did create a name, I am pretty sure I would recognize her brashness. I don't know why she isn't around, but I always got the impression she was a proud sort and wouldn't come back if she was asked to leave. I know I wouldn't if I was asked to leave. And it was hinted to me at one point that if I didn't like it I could hit the road...I promise if the mod Gods ever do give me the boot you won't see ME back under another name.

Hey, catnip, it's fine in general chat and occasionally elsewhere for forum members to discuss positive things that give them and other forum members a good feeling--such as accomplishments--be it a family member of a forum member--or maybe the weather, the sky is blue, they heard great music, the weather is warm/cold, colorful fonts (JK), etc. How is that hurting you? So if you don't like it, don't create a thread to @#$%& about it. If you don't like it, don't read it and don't skim through it, just skip it and don't make a big deal about it.

@spicy1 wrote:

Catnap, if this is not about shopping then why bring it here?

This is the 'General' topics section. This means it is for non-shopping topics.

@JASFLALMT wrote:

Hey, catnip, it's fine in general chat and occasionally elsewhere for forum members to discuss positive things that give them and other forum members a good feeling--such as accomplishments--be it a family member of a forum member--or maybe the weather, the sky is blue, they heard great music, the weather is warm/cold, colorful fonts (JK), etc. How is that hurting you?

I have never said this thread is anything to do with what other forum members talk about in other threads. I was looking for some general advice or comments.

Don't over-analyze other people's comments looking for something which isn't there.

@Catnap wrote:

What is the best way of dealing with people who constantly brag about everything?

There is an individual who does nothing but brag about; how stylish she is, her family member's achievements (so-called), how everything she does / has is better than everyone else, the list is endless.

Does she need to be told how annoying and pathetic she is or be given some slack due to her obvious loneliness?

I'm pretty sure that your topic is EXACTLY what people post about in other threads.

There might be some cross over. Everyone talks about such topics sometimes.

But if you read my post I was talking about a specific person who does it constantly to an annoying degree. There is a difference.

It's annoying to YOU. I didn't read anyone else complaining, or anyone else identifying who you were referring to. So basically, you are the only one who has a problem with.whoever it is, or at least the only one who took the time to create a thread complaining about it--and it appears no one else wants to jump on your bandwagon. My advice is to move on.

*we have been invited to a custom Bach Remedy session. we look at each other and wonder what the unprintable we are doing here*


A dapper chap approaches the podium, clears his throat, wipes his glasses, looks around the assembled gathering, and intones. 'Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to mourn the loss of people we never knew and aren't sure are gone. This is a necessary transition for us. Those seeking insight or other assistance may wish to speak with... *steps back so that guest speaker can step toward us*... Madama WooWoo'. A few titter, some yawn, and someone lights up... something. At least the room is not on fire. 'Madama is a Bach Remedy practitioner. Some may be happy to know that she does not practice the loud organ day and night. Rather, she deals with our tender souls-- even the ones that are deeply buried in grief, anger, and frustration. Madama will explain her work to you'.

Madama smiles at us. Then, she removes from her voluminous bag a thirty seven thousand foot scroll. Madama glares at us and declares, 'This is your mystery shopping forum rap sheet. You all have something to account for-- but not to me. The Universe is vast space. There is plenty of room for accountability there. If I were Santa Claus, I would inscribe your real names and all of your aliases on the indelible 'Do Not Deliver To List'. You understand that I would deny you goodies and treats forever, don't you? Alas, I am Madama and I use the products for me and recommend them for... you.

Madama shudders. One eyebrow raises slightly every few seconds while the prominent vein near her left temple twitches in syncopation.Fascinated, we watch as she spritzes herself with something from a brown bottle that has a yellow label. The unruly rhythm section quietens. Someone lights up again; we remember our training and offer no explanation for why Madama is mellowing before our eyes.

When Madama has recovered sufficiently from the horror of our dastardly deeds and our ghastly presence, she begins to speak to us. Madama's dulcet tones delight some of our our ears. She tells us about Rescue Remedy. It comes in a little brown bottle and has a yellow label. She attributes her recent calm to the small brown bottle. Someone hisses, 'snake oil!' Madama ignores the heckler/consumer advocate and continues the presentation.. She describes a 38-essence system.

Someone lights up again. Three people are snoring. Twelve have that glassy eyed expression that we wear when we pretend that the dolt sitting across from is us 'just the best date eeeeeveer!' Some have left the building-- or have they returned with another name? The rest are poker-faced.

At the end of the speech, the alert parts of the audience clap politely. Someone suggests that everyone, including Madama, should get a bite to eat and continue the conversation in the presence of food. Lots of food. Thus, everyone will meet at a popular shopped restaurant and enjoy a meal that does not require a visit to the loo, limited alcohol, names and/or accurate descriptions, and an explanation for every 'no'.

At the restaurant, we eat. We discuss. We eat..We pour out our bellowing little hearts and Madama listens.. She tells us what she thinks we need.

What does she tell us?
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All I know is, she never tells us what the unprintable we are doing here....

So, SEA, I have some really great LSD you could try...oh wait, you already have some? Hmmmm...LOL!!!!!

@JASFLALMT wrote:

So, SEA, I have some really great LSD you could try...oh wait, you already have some? Hmmmm...LOL!!!!!

Umm... yeah... what was in that little brown bottle? What were they smoking?



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LSD is ingested...never have I smoked anything that made me hallucinate. Do you know something different on a personal level?

@JASFLALMT just to confirm that I didn't start the thread with you in mind. I don't read you comments so closely so I'm not sure which sins if any, you are guilty of.

Never thought you had me in mind. I didn't consider that. I am a sinner for sure, but who really cares.

This is not Sybil2 ...beside her sarc, she was bright and funny and proud...yes she stirred the pot, but never did I not have a chuckle and think she is bright. this is not close. We had our moments, but I believe underneath it all, we liked one another. This one is humorless and that is not acceptable.

I do have a few friends that are constantly bragging or name-dropping. I recognize it as insecurity - that's usually the root cause of someone talking about themselves constantly or needing to turn the conversation toward themselves or their family members. I try (not always successfully) to remember where they come from and what their family life is really like. It helps. Ignoring doesn't usually work; they try harder to elicit praise and/or acceptance. What HAS sometimes worked is finding places where they deserve to be complimented and doing so sincerely.

So basically this was just a chit stirring thread...but that's fine. Happy New Year.

Isn't that pretty much the point of all of catnap's posts?

Why yes. Yes it is.

JAS, that's rather harsh. Why do you think it's someone in the forum?

@JASFLALMT wrote:

@Catnap wrote:

Does she need to be told how annoying and pathetic she is or be given some slack due to her obvious loneliness?

That would be quite rude for you to voice your opinion about it. I don't have any idea who you are talking about either, I've been a forum member for quite awhile and no one I can think of fits that description. But it seems pretty hypercritical for you to create a thread about it.

Ha!!! Good point, HB.

@Catnap wrote:

@JASFLALMT just to confirm that I didn't start the thread with you in mind. I don't read you comments so closely so I'm not sure which sins if any, you are guilty of.

Catnap 100 1m NewJanuary 02, 2018 08:08PM
@JASFLALMT just to confirm that I didn't start the thread with you in mind. I don't read you comments so closely so I'm not sure which sins if any, you are guilty of.

So this, this says a lot. It's not like I didn't try. From now on, this kind of thing just gets an eye roll from me.

Yeah, I never think anything negative is about me, what does that say about me? OMG what an ego I have. But that being said, I would so much prefer it if people would just come out and say what/who they mean instead of beating around the forum (errr, bush), LOL.

HB, your subtle sense of humor apparently escapes some people.

@HonnyBrown wrote:

JAS, that's rather harsh. Why do you think it's someone in the forum?

@JASFLALMT wrote:

@Catnap wrote:

Does she need to be told how annoying and pathetic she is or be given some slack due to her obvious loneliness?

That would be quite rude for you to voice your opinion about it. I don't have any idea who you are talking about either, I've been a forum member for quite awhile and no one I can think of fits that description. But it seems pretty hypercritical for you to create a thread about it.

@Catnap wrote:

@Irene_L.A. wrote:

My answer to Op is as follows: turn your negative nasty thread around and make it about you...pathetic, lonely, and maybe wishing you had a child to brag about.....how do you feel now? #find love and peace.

I don't believe I have ever openly criticized you in any threads. Please quote me if you can find any posts where I am rude or disrespectful to you to this level.

Your comments above say more about you than they do about me.

Your openig thread says more about you than me, and reeks of jealousy. You continue to put us down in your threads, grow up or get a life...or talk about yourself and your shopping experiences...what a concept.