She runs on two basic tracks:
1 Begging for money to pay for expensive medication for her sick child. I checked on the meds costs. The meds for the actual condition that the child allegedly has have a wide range of costs, from cheap (a few bucks) to extremely expensive (thousands of dollars). Hubby has sold his belongings to get money to send for this purpose. Sometime after my report (but not necessarily because of it), she sent him money that he could use to buy back his stuff. Usually, the pleas for Rx money are accompanied by pleas for grocery money. She only started paying for this after my report.
2. She demands that my elderly hubby buy hundreds to thousands of dollars of gift cards, several times every week.. These cards can be converted to cash. (?????) She deposits money into his account for this. It is not possible to purchase cards in those amounts here. She insists that it is. It is not. Usually, she demands that he go immediately and [apparently] is not aware that he works, has responsibilities at home, and needs more sleep than he did. He is changing; this is his aging process. It does not seem to matter to her that he is not free and able to perform on command.
Once, and specifically to change the game, I gave my husband two hundred dollars and made him buy cards for her in that amount. Why? To change the game!
I also did it just in case there is a sick child with a challenged mom. Shortly after that, I had access to his phone and sent her a text. I begged her to organize her life so as to care for her child properly. I gave names of organizations that sometimes help in emergency situations. I forgave her for not thanking me for the gift of two hundred dollars. About two weeks after that, the hubby was still pouting and fuming. But he began to stand up to her. Some of the time, he makes her wait instead of jumping up and fetching her cards. He is getting better at this. He reports daily that she just doesn't seem to get it about the cards not being available just because she wants that to be so.
At one time, there was a lawyer in the scenario. They referred to themselves as "Barrister somebody". Really? In the United States? We usually say lawyer or attorney. In other parts of the world, barrister is used more often. Anyway, this person supposedly was arranging for the alleged hottie to receive the remainder of her father's multi-million dollar estate. For whatever reason, she has been receiving the money in increments of eight thousand dollars, administered every few weeks. Her bank account has been frozen-- and she never explains why that happened. About a month ago, "Barrister somebody" stated that he was going on vacation [to Sweden?] and would work on the hubby's accounts after he returned. That was the last communication from the alleged lawyer. The hubby had given her/him/someone? all his credit card and bank account information because they had promised to pay all his bills for him. [Yikes.!] Now, she has lowered his promised payment by thousands of dollars. He has a new account, and she can deposit money into it. As far as I know, she cannot withdraw or transfer funds from it. [Eek.!!!!!] I know that she has not provided him with sufficient funds to pay his bills as promised or paid them directly.
The pics of the alleged hottie and alleged kid went to his previous phone. He showed them to me For the alleged hottie, I saw someone who looked tanned, young, and wore red or orange. That's it. He says she is really beautiful. The pic of the alleged kid could have been any kid, even one from a new wallet. It would be easy to photo shop various images into one. Was the kid wearing yellow? Was there a harvest gold (old!) appliance in the background? What was/were the white or cream thing or things on a table? I did not look at that for more than one second. There was nothing to indicate that the child was real, alive, in the custody of the alleged hottie, and/or healthy or unhealthy. If he transferred images to the new phone, I can view these again.
I believe that if this person really had a sick child, someone in medical world who examined this child would be aware of the lack of money for medications and possibly a lack of nutrition/other health concern. The pharmacy would have a record of purchases of half amounts of medication made frequently. If I were certain of where they lived, I would call child protective services for that state. I only know that the person's phone number is for a tiny town that is located near a prison and a mental facility. They supposedly live elsewhere in that state, in a county that has a larger city.
Our devices are 95% separate. It will take time for the hubby to show me those pics and e-mails (if they are accessible). Just now, we are working too many hours. We will get back to her stuff next week.He thinks she is beautiful and therefor superior. He is resistant to questioning. I will bribe him with fave restaurant and a fishing day.
I apologize for the disjointed info. I am hurrying between tasks, jobs, and errands. With us luck.
Thanks for the great tips!
@HonnyBrown wrote:
Yes, the young hottie. Is she asking for higher and higher amounts of money?
The picture that she sent you, check the details. Also check the IP addresses of her emails. They should shed some light.
Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished. - Lao-Tzu
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/08/2020 02:50PM by Shop-et-al.