If you were getting a job based strictly in your metropolitan area the cost of living would be a factor. I've found with remote positions, and I am assuming yours is remote, the COL is not a big consideration when determining compensation.
Equal rights for others does not mean fewer rights for you. It's not pie.
"I prefer someone who burns the flag and then wraps themselves up in the Constitution over someone who burns the Constitution and then wraps themselves up in the flag." -Molly Ivins
Never try to teach a pig to sing. It's a waste of your time and it really annoys the pig.