One or more forum members are using the Private Message feature to attack another member.

I thought that feature was so we could exchange real names and email addresses and personal type information we didn't want to put on the board. I didn't know it was meant to be used to express our animosities and hurt one another.

Silly me.

We had a new forum member who came to us really excited about mystery shopping and wanting to pick up information and share experiences. I considered her a shopping buddy and looked forward to her posts. I was excited about her success. Now one or more have jumped her and beat her up in private messages.
How cheap can you get?

PS: PM me. Go ahead.

MDAVISNOWELL Wrote:
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> One or more forum members are using the Private
> Message feature to attack another member.
>
> I thought that feature was so we could exchange
> real names and email addresses and personal type
> information we didn't want to put on the board. I
> didn't know it was meant to be used to express our
> animosities and hurt one another.
>
> Silly me.
>
> We had a new forum member who came to us really
> excited about mystery shopping and wanting to pick
> up information and share experiences. I considered
> her a shopping buddy and looked forward to her
> posts. I was excited about her success. Now one or
> more have jumped her and beat her up in private
> messages.
> How cheap can you get?
>
> PS: PM me. Go ahead.


I agree! I know the competetion is some areas are high, but you do so many shops and you get locked out for awhile, why not share those shops?And if YOU are more serious about shops than the next shopper, you will be working harder at getting the shops anyway!
I have recruited 4, yes 4! people, and 3 are in my area! I find that they are good partners to me when I need a guest, and I can guest with them too. So if they go with me they get a free meal and don't have to do the reports! and vice-versa.

Isn't it enough of a dog eat dog world without making it worse? And isn't it true that what goes around comes around?

thanks for speaking up M!

This type of thing happens, jealousy, conflict, whatever it is, we will never know as she left the forum and choose not to give details...she also could have ignored it, or just left, but she did stir things up without explaining....something I don't have a clue about. I wish the guilty would come forward, but, that won't happen, so, let's move on and wish her luck!

I haven't corresponded with Rhonlynn and only know about her what I've read in her posts here on the forum, but we don't necessarily know that anything happened. Rhonlynn opened a thread posting that people were rude so she was leaving. But how do we know anyone was rude? Perhaps she believed they were rude but they were not. Or perhaps they declined to tell her which companies shop which clients and she felt that was rude. Or perhaps someone was indeed rude. She made a statement and there is no information to validate her statement one way or the other. My point is that we really don't know and there's no point in jumping to conclusions and starting a witch hunt. Rhonlynn has taken her leave, and I wish her well and think there's no point in continuing to speculate.

perception is 9/10ths of reality...

i remember when i first came on the forum... my first post was about a well known poor interaction ms company... there was a lot of heat on the thread (i never got to see it)... JJ had to take all of it down...

for various reasons i was absent from the forum for a while... and mert sent me this:

Where'd you go?From: Mert
To: cooldude581
Date: 07/24/2009 09:58PM

Hello! It seems you may have gotten caught up in a bad thread that Jacob deleted. But, I remember you. Hope you come back and post/share with us again. The deletion certainly had nothing to do with you.

Proverbs 15:4
The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.

"God gave us two ears and one mouth. So let us listen twice as much as we speak." Unknown

Do I get heated too? Sure. Do others as well? You bet. Does it hurt? You better believe it. Whoever said, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." is a bald face liar.

Rhonnlynn may you find peace and freedom from the hurt. I wish you the best. Amen.

I've never corresponded with Rhonlynn and am sorry to see her go.

Unfortunately, sometimes, on the internet, things don't come out like one would want them to. Sometimes, people take things the wrong way. Sometimes, as people can be insensitive, others can be too sensitive. Who knows what happened.

All I know is, when people PM me asking me for info about who shops where, I hope they don't find me rude in declining to give said info. I value my work and my ICAs. As such, I'm totally unwilling to break my ICA for an internet stranger, no matter how well meaning and sweet that person may be, particularly new forum members. I've put in a lot of time, effort, sweat and tears into making my business work and I don't see any benefit for myself in just giving away the info I worked for.

I come here to share my experiences and to read about others' experiences. If my unwillingness to share confidential info makes me rude, so be it.

Wishing Rhonlynn the best on her endeavors.

Okay this is what happened,I'll clear the air. I got messaged the other day, from someone on this form, who said my posts weren't adding anything to the forum,and accused me of smoking marijuana...which I don't do. I'm a HIPAA nurse. Investigations and drug use doesn't match. I tried to get her to stop messaging me, and she wouldn't stop. She accused me of living in Raytown, which I don't. She accused me, cause I'm vegan, of smoking marijuana.I didn't realize you had to smoke marijuana to be vegan, huh? She said nothing I say adds to the forum, so I need to quit.

The thing is, I 've learned so much from this forum, and everyone has been fantastic. I've had so much help, and now I'll help pothers here, too. I got mad...her name is Lady...something. I ain't leaving. And if I get another message from her, I'll report her.

Oh by the way, I couldn't restrain myself on the handbag shop, so i have a new wallet.....and have been looking for a fitness club forever, did a high end shop today, and joined. It ended up only being 40.00 a month. Thankyou everyone. She just hit a sore spot in me. Next time I'll report her.

Well, happy day! Welcome back.