You guys are the only ones to ask (awkward)

At an announced audit with photos I encountered a female employee that was beautiful with a great sense of humor and a smile that rolled my socks up and down.
Believe me or not but I was professional, did my job and left. But I definitely felt a "vibe".
If I wasn't working I would have asked her to dinner then and there.

Is there some kind of protocol for going back to get the girl?

Is there a time period I have to let pass?

Is it completely taboo?

I don't need advice on the personal side. I'm wondering how it affects my standing with the MSC.

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I'm not sure how to answer that one. I am guessing that if you do "go back for the girl" that you won't be able to shop for that client anymore because you will now "know" an employee who works for the company.

Not to sound negative but could she have possibly made you for the mystery shopper and played the flirt card a bit?

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Go back and ask her out. If she turns you down, you won't know someone who works there, but might have to avoid directly shopping her again. If she accepts, you have a date and won't be left wondering, "what if....?"

Let me tell you about the time I almost met the love of my life, but I was too concerned about losing future chances to make $20 and a hero citation. What are you doing here?! You should be getting a haircut and thinking about what you will say to her tomorrow.

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Tell us who she is. We'll do it for you.

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Shop2live,
It wasn't a mystery shop it was an announced audit with photos and they knew damned well that they were in line like fine wine. Nobody was concerned and they had no need to be the place was perfect.

Should I wait until I'm paid for the shop?

I'm not concerned about losing shops for the client, I'm more concerned about being blacklisted by the MSC

How would they ever know?
What you do on your own time is your own business (and ours, of course). The only issue that may come up would be the next time you are up to audit that location you'll have to tell the MSC that you know her and wanted them to know that you know her. They don't need to know the nature of your relationship. You know her and that's that. If they decide you shouldn't work that location then that's your penalty and their decision.

And that only applies if she actually takes an interest in you. If you try and she shoots you down then you really still don't know her and therefore can continue to work as if she was any other stranger- because she is.

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Edited 3 time(s). Last edit at 03/14/2014 07:48PM by Hoju.

Do it soon

Go back and ask her out. Whether you get a date or a turn-down, it means you will have compromised your objectivity on that shop but she sounds well worth sacrificing the one job for. As long as you completed and turned in the report on your assignment, I see no reason to wait. Good luck!

Hmm. I do a lot of revealed audits. The managers/employees are often quite friendly, sometimes even flirtatious. I haven't ever thought it was more than a way to make the audit go as smoothly as possible. I don't think the guy offering me a bottle of wine was trying to hit on me, but that's just me.

If you want to ask her out, strap on the big boy/girl pants and do it. You are an IC and the MSC has no control over your actions after the assignment is finished. I don't think you need to wait to get paid. You should be fine as long as the assignment is submitted.

Oddly enough, it seems to be the people at the compliant stations that are friendliest. Some of the worse ones seem to have less than pleasant personell. Go figure.

Go for it

Go get the girl. The worst that can happen is you getting a no.

But, if you get a yes, she might be the love of your life. And forget about getting paid or not for that shop. Any other human being, specially a lady is worth more than a darn shop fee.

Let us know how it goes!

C

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"When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind..." - Henry Ford

Do you even know if she's single and available? You might want to do your "research" on Facebook before you go all the way back to the store and ask her out

Life is short - take a chance.

You weren't covert, the audit is done and submitted, go for it. Life is too short to let a possible good thing pass by.

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Don't forget to report back here to the peanut gallery!

There are two types of people in this world: Those who can extrapolate from incomplete data.

Yes, I am joining the gang who say go for it! But only if you fill us in on the details. Hopefully you have asked her out already, so how did it go?

If her smile had "rolled my (your) socks up and down, " then get off the computer and go for it! I agree with Michael C, why
are you here? If you plan to wait until you get paid, you are kidding about her power of rolling up your socks up and down.

Return to the store on your day off and check to see it she is there. If she is there see if she remembers you. If she does not then introduce yourself and strike up a conversation.

Don't do a search on FB or Google. That is just creepy. If she is a negative factor it will show in her personality. If you are single and want to mingle then proceed.

BTW, are you sure you weren't wearing ankle socks that day?????????

I HATE Facebook. NEVER, EVER go to a social network to try to find out something about someone. Don't Google anyone either. Get to know people the way it should be, not e-people.

C

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"When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind..." - Henry Ford

You could go back and start to establish a friendship and ask her out after a couple of visits.

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> I HATE Facebook. NEVER, EVER go to a social
> network to try to find out something about
> someone. Don't Google anyone either. Get to know
> people the way it should be, not e-people.

I sometimes find Facebook/Twitter helpful in determining if a person is in a relationship or not and getting a general idea of what they're like. But I agree with you, people should get to know each other offline.

@HeatherC - I get your point, but on social networks you have the power on a) anonymity, b) tailoring your life. You can create a character of your self so perfect that anyone would fall in love with you, while on this brick and mortar world you might be the complete opposite.

Nobody is as popular as they say on their Facebook profile, so smart as they pretend to be on Twitter, and so gorgeous as in their Instagram.

Makes you ponder...

C

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"When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind..." - Henry Ford

Just do what Heather says and stalk her for a little while before you pounce.

I'm kidding.

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You guys are the only ones to ask (awkward)
Adult erotic novelty mystery shop

And all you guys/girls are asking for the dirty details! :-O

P.S. By me responding to this post, I'm sure it will change the order but it is still funny.

Better to ask her for coffee than dinner - start slow. When you go back smile and make eye contact (we all know how important that is - haha.)

To be clear my concern is that my report was very positive. While the pictures back up my report I'm concerned that a case can be made that the report was more positive because of my interest in this woman.

Regardless, I have business in that area on Saturday. I'm going to stop in to say hello and see how that goes. Play it by ear (let the appendage jokes commence).

This could be the first woman I ask out since I divorced. I'm more nervous than my first assignment. I swear that I was a stud when I was younger...wonder where the confidence went....

I appreciate the support and will let you know how it goes (at least generally).

Confidence is the first thing that goes. Or is that something else that goes first?

You've got a bunch of people rooting for you!

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