@Phoebe70 wrote:
This is a touchy subject. One time I had a restaurant shop in which I asked if mushrooms were in the stir-fry, as I am allergic. I was told no, but when my plate arrived the stir-fry had several large pieces of mushrooms, along with other veggies that were not supposed to be there (cauliflower in an Asian stir-fry?).
I mentioned it to the server, who offered to make me another dish. I said it was okay, I would just pick out the mushrooms. She then brought out the manager who in turn brought out the actual CHEF who apologized profusely. It was very awkward, to say the least.
The msc was not pleased that I mentioned it to the server, and I'm now forbidden from doing this particular restaurant, as I'm now "memorable."
In one of the Guidelines for a restaurant, it said that in anything that would affect your health, you are supposed to mention it to the server. I don't know why they would penalize you for that. But look at it as a blessing in disguise. You don't want to be eating in that restaurant again where they don't give you what you ordered.
If it was okay for you to just pick out the mushrooms, then your allergies may not be that severe. If you ask me, I would have picked off the mushrooms, eaten my meal and made a detailed report on their mistake. You would have remained anonymous. Hindsight is 20/20.