But you're doing wonderful things for other animals and your own, and that must give you great satisfaction. In my religion we say you'll get a mitzvah for that, a blessing.
Did you have a little funeral for the dog in your yard with a little prayer? That's how kids learn about death at that age. Also read them this. It's no worse than believing in Santa Claus:
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We live in a random universe, and life isn't always fair. People aren't always fair either, and that's the way it is. You can't change other people, but you can change the way you react to them. Don't rely on your husband if he's not interested in the fence. Imagine the satisfaction you'll get from learning to fix it yourself, or find someone who can do it. You can't undo the tragedy, but you'll be preventing more accidents.
I don't think we should take any more of this public forum on this private stuff. Why don't you PM me or Flash?
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"In a recent Harris On-line poll 38,562 men across the US were asked to identify woman's ultimate fantasy. They concluded that a woman's ultimate fantasy is to have two men at once. While this has been verified by a recent sociological study, it appears that most men do not realize that in this fantasy, one man is cooking and the other is cleaning."
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