@CAGB33...yes, I've had several losses and it's tough, time heals. I know you'll be o.k. and I am sorry for your loss. Therapy helps, talk it out, but not on the forum.....many here are brutal to criers, go where you'll be understood. We all have a different normal, one door closes, another opens has been my experience. I was told
when I went through mine, to write down my feelings, that helps. I've gone through divorce, and great loss.



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Many of us have gone through horrible life changes and losses. I hope you can recover quickly.

Just for the record, I’m not coming here for support for my life issues. I’m smarter than that. I was just upset for losing what I thought was somewhat steady work. I know - they come and go. I get that. I’m still upset about it though. All I was really looking for was “I feel your pain - that happened to me too.....”. Just validation and a sense that I’m not alone. Women like that. I don’t need answers, I don’t need sympathy. I just wanted empathy and validation. “Like: “Yes - it totally sucks when the MSC does that to you...”. That it. I’m not crying about it and don’t want everyone to feel sorry for me. I just needed to know, at that moment, that it happens to others and it hurts. There were 3 people who were able to give that to me. It happened to them to and they said it sucked! Okay - I am moving on.

This industry is not always great to it's shoppers, and yes many do throw you to the curb for another with no reason...I get it and it happened to me and I think through time, to everyone, well, maybe not SteveSoCal.

I think it's time to move on.

Close the thread.....

How do I close it? Didn’t realize I could. Thanks!

@CAGB33 wrote:

Just validation and a sense that I’m not alone. Women like that.

I don't agree the feeling is gender specific. Personally, it is not something I particularly need while I know many men who do.

I actually believe in stereotypes and feel it's a valid one. While you and I (and others) may not fit the stereotype, it doesn't meant that it doesn't apply to 80% or more.

Stereotypes are damaging to everyone and can be self-fulfilling when believed. In this case it was implied women are basically needy. Humans have emotional needs regardless of their gender. The breakdown of gender stereotypes has helped women get closer to achieving equality, but it doesn't mean men are left out or behind. As women achieved more freedom, so did men who were no longer constrained by what society once deemed as "manly" behavior which invariably translated to burying normal emotions.

CAGB33 I can both sympathize and empathize with you at this time in your life. I had one of the largest losses we can have in our lives about 8 months ago. Never did I think it would have such an impact on me. I was talking to a friend the other day who lost her husband about 5 years ago. She takes about 3 trips a month now. I asked her how she manages so many out of town trips and she told me somewhat the same thing you are saying...she just needs to get away, away from her home, away from her life as it was. I have reacted the opposite and have spent way too much time in my house. All the other everyday issues seem terribly exaggerated to me since my loss. We all react in different ways and need differing amounts of time to recover and re find our way in our new circumstances whatever it is. And some sort of steadiness somewhere in our new lives really helps. So I can understand how losing this source of steadiness that you relied on can be such a blow on top of the other things you are dealing with. But you are not alone. And you will recover...you are strong and becoming stronger every day...or so it seems from your posts. But life does suck sometimes and then a bright blue sunny sky opens up and takes away at least some of the pain.
Sandy ( my real name)

@Sandy...I applied for my fav in Beverly Hills (May 24th), if your able to join me, I'd love it.....will let you know when/if I get it.

Cag, you are right. Go with your feelings. Keep looking for a better opportunity than mystery shopping.

In 2014 I was the top earning shopper at Market Force. I made up to $50 per gas station audit. I did 450* audits. I ate fast food 2 times a day. I traveled from Wyoming to CO to NM to TX to OK to KA to AR to LA to MS and back again. I slept in my rented SUV at Walmarts, at every lonely TX rest area, in hotel parking lots, and in unlit Kansas pull overs. I was always alone. I drove thousands of lonely miles. I saw the country at 60mph. The fear of vehicle breakdowns was my only company, and fear of hail storms terrorized me because of the cost of repairing my rental--I had no car insurance.

After all that, I made a mistake on a ff shop, then made another mistake. MF fired me. 2 small mistakes im 450 shops. Too small misteaks. (Just like thst last sentence)

I was down to $100 and got caught in a tornado in Garland TX Dec 26 2015. I was depressed.

5 days later I was hired to clean up after the tornado and since then Ive been working on disaster sites.

Im appreciated, have friends, make 27/hr. AND TO ALL THE APOLOGISTS for MS companies. Ive made many more than 2 mistakes at my new career and so has everyone else. And nobody gets fired for minor mistakes--unlike MShopping for MF

MF cared nothing for me. Get out of shopping if you can. Dont wind up like these socalled pros at shopping. Theyre on a dead end road that ends at a place called
poverty and theyll get there right before the F4 tornado

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@bgriffin wrote:

I'll be in an aeroplane on my way to Atlanta for some music festivating (and some conferencing) so I am off to bed!

Did you go to Shaky Knees? I did a bit of festivating, too.

I did! We have gone every year.

He really also dropped in on the first morning of the IMSC conference, just long enough to hug a few friends before disaperating into festivating.

@walesmaven wrote:

He really also dropped in on the first morning of the IMSC conference, just long enough to hug a few friends before disaperating into festivating.

Disaperating...you gave me the belly laugh I needed this morning. That and the fact that Big Billy Hill "liked" himself although I suspect that was done by mistake (not that he did not like himself.)

Gotta like a person that "tells it like it is" instead of those bragging on the money made, and not including the hours and time it took. Most (in fairness) have other jobs that provide health Ins., etc. Using MS'ing for sublimenting income, and perks do fine...perhaps Big Billy Hill should have realized he is not an employee, and companies do look for new blood, but looks like he improved his life, so it's all good.
BGriff, you do get around....