Splitting soup as appetizer?

January 13, 2026 01:44AM

On dining shops where we are told to split an appetizer I'm often eager to order the soup, but it always seems like something that would be strange for two people to split (even if I'm dining with my spouse). I tried getting one soup and two spoons on a Coyle dining shop a few weeks ago and the server pushed back saying it was small, so we each got one, and the report was approved without issue (and we were still under reimbursement). Is this some weird hangup I should get over?

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January 13, 2026 01:53AM

Generally, dining shops give a minimum to order and allow you to get more if you like. Getting two appetizers should be fine unless it is expressly prohibited in the guidelines. Same with extra sides and dessert. They do tend to cap the booze, though...

January 13, 2026 02:20AM

True, but often the reimbursements are so tight that a second serving of soup would put me over, and also provide more food than we could finish.

@Deedeezthoughts wrote:

Generally, dining shops give a minimum to order and allow you to get more if you like. Getting two appetizers should be fine unless it is expressly prohibited in the guidelines. Same with extra sides and dessert. They do tend to cap the booze, though...

January 13, 2026 03:02AM

I notice the same thing. Several of my recent dining shops have had mostly soups and salads for the appetizers. If they ask for general comments, I always say they need a better selection of appetizers. I get so tired of chips and bread.

January 13, 2026 03:25AM

At Asian restaurants my husband, with eyes bigger than his stomach, always wants to order soup, egg rolls, and two entrees. It's too much food for us. I suggest we split the soup. Not such a strange order to request two spoons.

January 13, 2026 05:15AM

lol Rho, at a chinese restaurant I will order hot and sour soup and let my son eat everything else.

January 13, 2026 01:56PM

If one person orders the soup and the other person dips their bread in the soup once, that should count as sharing. Just my humble opinion.

January 13, 2026 04:26PM

I really don't think sharing is required so much as you have to make it clear this is an appetizer course for timings. If only one person orders "soup to start", the server *should* ask. They don't like to leave one person watching the other person eat, it's awkward. And since you are the one who will be blamed if there isn't an appetizer course... Just ask for the bowl and two spoons and if they argue it's small, you can say "that's OK, we are watching our calories but really want to taste it."

January 13, 2026 05:29PM

Just ask for an extra soup bowl, and the server will gladly oblige. Server does, after all, work for tips.

January 13, 2026 05:34PM

Am I the only one who thinks its super weird to share a bowl of soup?

January 13, 2026 07:04PM

@gigishopper wrote:

Am I the only one who thinks its super weird to share a bowl of soup?

Nope. To me, it's actually kinda gross unless in a separate bowl, and soup portions just aren't all that big to begin with. I have been married for 26 years and I still don't like drinking from the same cup/glass/bottle as my husband. Yeah, we kiss but I have a hangup over sharing food and drink with anyone.

January 13, 2026 07:50PM

I do not do coyle shops so I am wondering if this is a requirement of only Coyle shops. I have done many a restaurant shop where they say split an appetizer and/or dessert. I have never seen a requirement that the second person actually eats part of it. My understanding of this rule is that you only need to order one of these, not two for the shop. I have never seen it to mean you actually both have to eat it. I have never considered that a server would wonder why only one person wants dessert or an appetizer. This is quite usual in a restaurant that two people do not want to share the items they chose to order. I have never been asked on a survey if both of us dipped into the appetizer or dessert.

January 13, 2026 10:55PM

Thanks for all of the responses! I think I wasn't clear enough in my inquiry. I realize that if one person has a bowl of soup and the other person has no appetizer the bowl of soup would meet the ordering requirement. I am thinking about situations where we would both like to try the soup but the reimbursement would only allow for one and/or we have no need to each have an entire bowl when we have two more courses coming our way.

January 14, 2026 02:00AM

@gigishopper wrote:

Am I the only one who thinks its super weird to share a bowl of soup?

Nope. You are not alone.
I am positive that I have never split a cup or bowl of soup in my 1000's of restaurant visits.

January 14, 2026 02:47AM

@Jusa wrote:

@gigishopper wrote:

Am I the only one who thinks its super weird to share a bowl of soup?

... Yeah, we kiss but I have a hangup over sharing food and drink with anyone.

Now, I think that's weird.

January 14, 2026 05:30AM

I’ve shared my soup as an appetizer many times and asked for an extra spoon so my friend can try it, even if it’s a small portion.

A decent place will do it in the kitchen and deliver it in 2 dishes with spoons.

January 14, 2026 05:42AM

My wife and I often split soup...but usually entree soup (Wonton soup, etc). She will also drink right out of my glass, so it depends on your relationship with your guest.

The Coyle guidelines have been 1/2/1 for appetizer/entrees/dessert for a while, but they will often make exceptions, and be OK if you are still under budget. For the ones that require dessert, you can also just order coffee or tea as the dessert. It's about the multi courses of service, not a specific food intake requirement.

January 14, 2026 07:10AM

I have done over 100 Coyle shops. Mine are normally appetizer OR dessert, 2 different entrees, and one alcoholic drink, other drinks optional.

January 14, 2026 06:51PM

Split pea soup? Never.

January 15, 2026 01:33AM

I just wanted to add. I did a high end shop at a country club restaurant several months ago. Nice neighborhood. At a table near us was an elderly couple who split everything. It was cute.

January 15, 2026 06:58PM

@NinS wrote:

Thanks for all of the responses! I think I wasn't clear enough in my inquiry. I realize that if one person has a bowl of soup and the other person has no appetizer the bowl of soup would meet the ordering requirement. I am thinking about situations where we would both like to try the soup but the reimbursement would only allow for one and/or we have no need to each have an entire bowl when we have two more courses coming our way.

Thanks for the clarification. Evidently I was the only one who thought you had a requirement to split the soup!
Not that you were doing it by choice. Last night I ate at one of my fave spots not on a shop where they now charge $2 extra to share a plate. When my mom was a senior and moved to N Miami which was dominated by older people I remember most of the restaurants had an extra charge to split a plate. They served full meals soup to nuts so even the soup was commonly split. That was way back last century.

January 16, 2026 03:03AM

When not on a shop my husband likes to order French onion soup, and I love a good wedge salad. We just eat what we want of it and then trade plates/ bowls.
I've had my tongue on every inch of his body so sharing soup is not even a second thought.

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