I wish you strength, divorce is the most difficult thing to go through, I have empty nest amd weekly lunches with friends helps, as does msing, basically, keeping busy and getting your own life is the key. Change can open new doors, it has for me....being alone produce's insight, learn from it..wishing the best.
RomeroWrote:
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> I have just gotten a divorce. I moved to a new
> area of town. I am very lonely right now. This is
> a difficult time. I do have my two cats. My kids
> are 21.
> I have the empty nest and on top of it all a new
> environment.

Once you get through this painful process, you can build your life again the way you want it. Wishing you the best......

Romeo - I meant to respond to your post earlier, but better now than never.

It is very hard to lose a partner, whether to death or divorce. It may seem a long time before it begins to get better. It will help if you can stay busy, with work, hobbies, volunteering, whatever.

You may find that some of the couple friends you had when you were a couple will avoid you, and this may feel heartbreaking. This will happen because they don't know what to do with you as a single. What those couple friends are really looking for is other couples, and you don't fit anymore. Try to get used to thinking of yourself as single and independent. Move on to make other single friends.

One thing you can do to help yourself is work more. You are on this shopping forum, so you must be a shopper. Book more jobs. That will get you out in public and help you stay busy. If you are idle, you will feel worse.

Is there something you always wanted to do that you didn't get around to earlier in life? A subject you wanted to study, a hobby you wanted to take up, something different you wanted to do? Now's the time.

Take care of your health. Maintain the best possible appearance. Iron your clothes. Polish your shoes. Take pride in who you are. Believe in yourself that you are a special person.

One day, you will start to feel better. You will begin to have good days now and then, and soon you will have those good days more often. This is a new place in your life, and you are going to move on to a better place. Do what you can to get ready for that better place.

"Time heals all wounds..."

being alone is hard.. peace seems to be a big issue with every one hear...

love reading all the prayers and praise...

Those of you who believe an a higher being, let's all remember to take a moment to pray for the safety of our fellow shopper friends during this hurricane season.

yeah my brother and his pregnant wife are in Philly... i am sure they will be fine... their house is made of brick and philly is pretty removed from the ocean... flooding is probably the biggest problem...

Please be praying for me. Had a heart attack on Saturday. Waiting to find out if I need bypass surgery. Find out tomorrow I think.

Oh, dear! I will most definitely keep you in my prayers. I'm so sorry to hear that. Take care and best wishes as you get things figured out. I'm really glad you're still here telling us about it!


iblessyah Wrote:
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> Please be praying for me. Had a heart attack on
> Saturday. Waiting to find out if I need bypass
> surgery. Find out tomorrow I think.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Will be praying hard and shaking the very rafters of heaven for you.

Thank you for letting us know, iblessyah. I wish you a full and speedy recovery. Happy, positive thoughts!

Indeed, best wishes for a full and quick recovery! You will be in my thoughts.

ibless,
Sending all good thoughts and wishes. Consider yourself hugged, please.

...thinking of you, iblessyah

Bless - Here's hoping for the best possible results.

iblessyah I will keep you in myprayers and hope everything works out for the best please keep us advised if you are able.

Speedy recovery wishes for you. I know you'll be fine, and please keep posting, I for one will miss your humor and fun attitude.

Bless - Thanks for letting us know what happened. I'm sorry they can't do the bypass. You and I are fellow heart patients. Please get in touch if you need an understanding ear.

Am home and packing to move to my brother's house so I can take care of myself without the added stress of caring for my daughter and her family. Will miss being with my grandkids but I'll still see them often. Just folding a few clothes or sorting stuff into a box is exhausting. A couple of ladies from church are coming over on Thursday to help me. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers. I'll be around and will post as I am able.

amen

ibless,
I have a best friend in England who has the same situation as you describe with surgery not being an option. He has good days and bad days but over the 20 years since that news, he has rebuilt four cars, traveled internationally, raised 4 kids as a stay-at-home dad, remodeled two houses, built a garage, revamped two gardens, and I know not what all else, although considered 100% disabled all of this time. He just has to do them slowly and on level ground. Literally, he can stride purposefully across level ground for quite some distance; a slight incline and a few paces will be enough to send him to the sidelines for a rest.

So, take it slowly and seek out level ground. I suspect that you will find that you can return to some of your routes if you wish and can plan them carefully. I think of you often and hope to meet up soon.

My brother in law, who lives in another state and has been somewhat distance for several years but got back in touch with my husband over the past two mo months, is apparently now so ill that he might not make it much longer. I was so looking forward to my husband getting a chance to go see his brother, whom he has not seen for over 4 years, but now I'm concerned he will not have that chance before it's too late. I would so appreciate your prayers on behalf of Mark, that he might live at least long enough for both my husband and their sister to make a visit. My brother in law is only in his mid-50's. Thank you so much.

Update: We were just given word that they don't expect him to live more than a week. I'm making plane reservations for my husband to fly out tomorrow. We are so, so sad.

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