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Goodbye. Very rude people here, to accuse me of such nonsense in private messages.

Edited 3 time(s). Last edit at 08/19/2011 03:57PM by Rhonlynn.

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Sorry that you feel that way. Of course you can ignore your PMs. Nice little check box next to each PM that can allow you to just delete unwanted correspondence.

Rhonlynn - Those must have been really ugly messages to hurt you this badly. I am so, so sorry. It doesn't seem right for forum members to use the private message feature to secretly mistreat you. If they have something to say, why not say it openly? Don't let them make you leave. That's exactly what they want.

They must be ashamed to make their statements openly. Or, the statements must be so vicious they were insulting and wouldn't get past the posting rules.

Please reconsider, Rhonlynn. I hope you will copy these complete messages to the board, including the assumed names of the posters, so we can all take a look.

Mary Davis Nowell. Based close to Fort Worth. Shopping Interstate 20 east and west, Interstate 35 north and south.

Wow, really? That is just terrible! We don't want to see you go.

People certainly have *road rage* over the internet and are cowards....don't pay any attention to them. This forum is full of such valuable info especially for a newby....stay with us!!!

What in the world was said?

If I let negative remarks and messages get to me, I would have left town a long time ago. Sorry, Rhonlynn. If the messages are truly egregious, you may want to consider forwarding them to Jacob.

I had no idea, and cannot imagine what you said to bring that on.....I as well, would love more specifics to who and why this happened. Don't leave, then they will get their way. I once got a nasty pm (over a year ago) from Dee and refused to leave because we didn't see eye to eye...she left and I continue to enjoy the forum. My current pm's are asking for names, I can live with that. Reconsider.......I would complain to Jacob.

Live consciously....

Sorry it didn't work out for you here. Best of luck to you.

Evaluating and mailing packages since 1994. I am an undercover connoisseur of customer service, a master of disguise in the aisles, and a sworn enemy of subpar experiences. I blend in, observe, and report—because excellence should never be a mystery.

Rhonlynn - I read back through your posts and I don't see anything I find offensive. I'm wondering if the problem is that you mentioned Volition, the MSPA, Cathy Stucker, and the Mystery Shopping Manual. There was also some discussion of certification. These are all volatile subjects, and forum members are highly opinionated.

What exactly was the accusation? Were you accused of promoting Volition, the MSPA, Cathy Stucker, the Mystery Shopping Manual, and/or certification? Am I completely off base here? Did these underhanded attackers accuse you of being mean, small, cowardly, backbiting, vicious, evil, immoral, depraved, malicious, or spiteful? Did somebody jump you because you have a solid regular job? Am I warm? Maybe just a little bit?

Anxiously, I await more information. I seriously hope to see you posting here again.

Mary Davis Nowell. Based close to Fort Worth. Shopping Interstate 20 east and west, Interstate 35 north and south.

I think Mert offers the correct suggestion. If rude and accusatory PMs are being received, forward them on to Jacob to deal with. Posting them in open forum does nothing but stir the pot. If they are indeed rude and noxious, Jacob is quite good about dealing with the situation.

I always wondered why some folks choose not to let it show when they are on the forum....if not choosing to give details on the forum, you could pm some that show an interest. I would like to know who and why, saying something good about V...everyone's entitled to their opinion, or maybe not! Mary will have a "dustup", she's on everyone's side, and gave me encouragment when I was attacked for cancelling a job. Sometimes it's better to confront than run away, getting things out in the open, leads to understanding and resolve, while silence never solves a problem, your feelings were hurt to a great degree, which isn't right. While I agree with Mert, Jacob will help, but this is after the fact, the damage is done.

Live consciously....

Please don't leave. I enjoy your posts. As others said, forward them to Jacob and let him handle them.

Flash Wrote:
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> I think Mert offers the correct suggestion. If
> rude and accusatory PMs are being received,
> forward them on to Jacob to deal with. Posting
> them in open forum does nothing but stir the pot.
> If they are indeed rude and noxious, Jacob is
> quite good about dealing with the situation.

I agree. Rude people are everywhere. When posting on a public forum, obviously we are all stuck with some people we might not choose to associate with. Being sensitive is a liability. It often pays to ignore obnoxious people. If a post or a PM is too offensive, it's time to notify Jacob and let him handle it. If you enjoy posting on the forum, it would be a shame to react so sensitively to rude comments through PMs and punish yourself by withdrawing.

Please forward offending PMs to Jacob, block those posters from sending you PMs and remain on the board.

There have been nasty people here in the past; Jason banned them. Don't let the bad guys/gals win.

We value your contributions and want you to stay.

Based in MD, near DC
Shopping from the Carolinas to New York
Have video cam; will travel

Poor customer service? Don't get mad; get video.

I was accused of illegal activity. She carried it on for several messages. I got mad.

It was a private message who accused me of illegal activity cause I am vegan. I don't do that, I am a HIPAA investigator, my goodness. The notes went on and on, and never stopped. It hurt my feelings. She said I added nothing to the forum, I needed to go away and smoke my joint with out them. She accused me of living in Raytown, which I don't, and said I don't bring anything to the forum. She was rude, and a bully. I don't have time for that kind of stuff. There were 3 notes like this. And what do you know? I erased them, cause she made me mad. I think her name was Lady.....something.

Nothing was said of anything else, and I know what not to mention on this forum, NOW. This is a nice forum, if I hear from her again, I'll report her. I learned so much here,I'm staying.

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/21/2011 08:03PM by Rhonlynn.

Good! You made the right decision.

Allegations of illegal activity are totally inappropriate for posting in open forum as well as through PMs. I'm very offended. I'd like to see the information provided about you being accused of illegal activity removed from the open forum post. The right way to handle this is to report it to Jacob. Although you have deleted the PMs, a webmaster could probably find the threads and identify the PMs that you deleted. That way Jacob could view the PMs that were sent to you and take appropriate action with an abusive person if necessary.

I've been thinking about this and I don't remember a Lady something posting on the forum in the eighteen months or so I've been following it. This may be a regular poster who wanted to hassle Rhonlynn without being identified. Wouldn't it be possible to go to another computer, set up a new email, join the forum, and do whatever to get rid of someone you don't like? I'm not a techie, but it seems to me this would work. This could be someone who posts all the time and wanted to jump Rhonlynn without being really identified. It wouldn't matter if the new identity got thrown off. I hope this is not what happened. Maybe my scenario is impossible??

Mary Davis Nowell. Based close to Fort Worth. Shopping Interstate 20 east and west, Interstate 35 north and south.

Sorry, this is getting sillier and sillier all the time. Why the heck would anybody bother to do that? It is not like this is a controversial figure.

Agreed with Flash. Getting told someone thinks you smoke a little weed is really not that big a deal. I was under the impression that the person was being all kinds of nasty with accusations but it's just that she thinks you smoke some pot?

If you're going to stay in this business, you will definitely need to develop a thicker skin. If the weed accusation is the worst of it, it's really not a big deal, particularly when it's not true. Who cares what an internet stranger thinks you do or don't do?

I was not referring to the hurt that Rhonlynn evidently felt from the comments but rather in trying to ascribe some kind of conspiracy and make a big drama out of it. But indeed you need to have a pretty thick skin to stand up when an MSP implies that they think you cheated, misrepresented a situation or otherwise did not do the work properly. There are a number of such occasions that will arise in the course of shopping, whether it is a challenge from the location, the client or the company. In many senses this is not work for the faint of heart.

MDAVISNOWELL Wrote:
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> Wouldn't it be
> possible to go to another computer, set up a new
> email, join the forum, and do whatever to get rid
> of someone you don't like? I'm not a techie,
> but it seems to me this would work.

Most forum software enables you to identify the IP of the computer, so even with a new email and user name, it's not really "anonymous". There are ways to get around this, but why would it be worth the trouble? I'm not condoning this behavior in any way, but it seems like it's time to move on. Rhonlynn seems to have done that, and I'm glad. Just not worth dwelling on this sort of thing.

I checked her member status,I was extremely tired that day, I had woke up at 4:45 to start my regular job at 5 a.m., to go and do mystery shops later. I don't know why that bothered me,I'm usually, I don't give a eff. I think it was I was so tired. But her name was there, but with no posts.

It's weird, cause I don't care, I just go on. And I'm usually pretty tough. But never that tired.

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/21/2011 07:50PM by Rhonlynn.

I'm sorry,I didn't want to offend anyone. I just told it like it is. I changed my message, but anyway, she did this in like 4 messages, and I was just plain tired. Never ever again will I do that many shops,and try to work my 8 hour day job.

Too confusing and without any depth....not much to get concerned about...Rhonlynn, with no intent to hurt you, please stop pming me, your all over the place, when you could have gone to Jacob and avoided this whole thing, it seems silly. I don't remember a "Lady" poster and why on earth would she go to this trouble? There's more to this picture than meets the eye.

Live consciously....

Irene,
I think that accusing someone of some sort of double dealing because they make a public complaint is unworthy of you.

Will everyone please get off this tired horse. This makes me think of the bad old days before Dee was banned.

Based in MD, near DC
Shopping from the Carolinas to New York
Have video cam; will travel

Poor customer service? Don't get mad; get video.

Believing this blindly is just as unproductive as posting it...we were all informed and can choose our sides. I believe when there is proof, lady, deleted pm's, I'll jump on her bandwagon, proof it please, then let it go away. I do agree about this horse being beated to death. The truth as one see's it is never being unworthy to oneself.

walesmaven Wrote:
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> Irene,
> I think that accusing someone of some sort of
> double dealing because they make a public
> complaint is unworthy of you.
>
> Will everyone please get off this tired horse.
> This makes me think of the bad old days before Dee
> was banned.

Live consciously....

OK Rhonlynn - You checked the member status and this person had no posts. Sounds like the account was set up for the purpose of jumping you without being identified. It could have been done at a different computer and the IP would be different. Not a conspiracy. Just one person who wants to be unknown. But, that person wasn't successful in getting you off the forum, and I hope you don't hear anything else. You're OK now. You'll soon forget about this. An old friend of mine had a favorite quote: "It'll be all right. It won't be the same, but it'll be all right."

Mary Davis Nowell. Based close to Fort Worth. Shopping Interstate 20 east and west, Interstate 35 north and south.

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