Sybil2, so funny! Congratulations on three positive citations. If they sent me three citations I would probably throw up before I recovered.

What if the appointment was for a specialist and you had waited months for the appointment, and it was not a shop at all? I would have demanded that my husband come home so that I could make my appointment. THIS is no different! You should have brow beat your husband into coming home like he had committed to. He could work from home, he could go back after you came home. The husband messed up, not the shopper!

guanadu, are you married? I was a long time ago. There are things you can and can not do if you wish to maintain the peace. In my case I was a Realtor and my spouse was salaried. We would coordinate schedules so that I could do closings or showings, and that worked reasonably well. But sure as shootin' every time I had an evening appointment to present an offer received that day, even though I would call and my spouse would indicate they would be home for the kids, I would get the phone call, or have to call when it was just about time for me to leave the house, and discover that spouse was 'held up at work and can leave for home in about an hour'. My neighbors got all too accustomed to my last minute knock on their door to see if the kids could come over for a couple of hours. They did not seem resentful, though it required a whole lot of homemade breads, cookies and fruit pies to express appreciation. When I finally blew up with the spouse about it, it was pointed out that the household economy was based on spouse's systematic and higher salary, not on Realtor commissions. After that the spouse not appearing as agreed took on an air of deliberately leaving me dangling and I had to throw in the towel or line up sitters for every showing, open house, closing etc. The dynamics of marriages vary.

Who are you addressing this to?

My husband doesn't respect that my work as an independent contractor for these companies is the same as his employment for the companies he works for. It's an uphill battle. But, my grievance with Bare (and, trust me, there were words for my husband), was that I made multiple contact attempts and didn't hear back from them before the citation. Also, they took a month to finally attain a log on for the exam so that I could do the job. My husband's job schedule changed during that time. Otherwise, I would have never even signed up for it.

@guanadu wrote:

What if the appointment was for a specialist and you had waited months for the appointment, and it was not a shop at all? I would have demanded that my husband come home so that I could make my appointment. THIS is no different! You should have brow beat your husband into coming home like he had committed to. He could work from home, he could go back after you came home. The husband messed up, not the shopper!

I appreciate your support. My husband works two jobs to support our family. One is in law enforcement. The second, which he was working this "awesome" night, was his first weekend. The MSC took a month to give me the credentials to set up the appointment. My husband was stressed out and having chest pains about getting his work done. He thought he would be done on time, but underestimated it. We had words - but, ultimately, he matters more than Bare.

@thegov2k2 wrote:

Yet another pleasant response from you. Not that I'm shocked.

@Sybil2 wrote:

@MelNel525 wrote:

Wow! Such a great idea! If only I was as smart and as forwarding thinking as you.

Yes, great idea. And then you would not be here whining about receiving a totally warranted flake citation. Go call the Sensitivity Police next time.

Sorry - I'm on my phone and hit the wrong button. Who are you addressing?

MelNel525, you have a good attitude about this. I appreciate that you are upset. I think anyone would be even if they did not get a flake against them. When things do not turn out as expected stuff happens. But, you know your situation and as another shopper said, perhaps you should have turned the job down when you found your situation had changed. But you did not do that and now you have learned from it. And yes, your marriage is more important than the msc. You sound like you handled the situation at home well.
Flash, your situation sounds like more of a nightmare for you and most likely in more ways than the mystery shopping scenario since your marriage ended finally. From your posts you sound like a very reasonable and easy to get along with person. Not every spouse is. But even if both are, sometimes personalities just do not match. I am happy for you those issues are in the past now.

OP, I got a flake on my file with Bare for an exam also. It was when my daughter died. At least Bare only gave me a flake; another company discontinued me. I didn't do the jobs, those were the consequences. I have no regrets or anger towards either company and still do work for Bare.
I was where I needed to be at that time and that note on my page just doesn't bother me.



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Prince, I'm speechless. Just speechless.