I bet Cettie will like this (how would you react?)

Disliking any man that puts a woman down, as a shopper, I would have stood back and watched and waited until the man left.
I would have put it in my report, a disturbance of preposterous size happened, not allowing a correct evaluation, and try and re-do it. You handled it well, (what else could you do). I have used the F word in the privacy of my home, and would have liked it better had you just written F, not the whole word, as there are many that will be turned off on the forum. Remember even the Military can be bigoted, people are people whatever they choose to do, I wouldn't blame it on his experience, this hate for woman had to be there before. This is a Cettie story, and her feedback should be interesting.

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Interesting scenario. I wrote several different responses to what I would have done, but I didn't like any of them. Would I leave the store and sit in my car until the man left? If he didn't leave, would I call 911 (whose response time around here is horrendous)? I think, ultimately, I would have been very relieved to see the guy break the beer bottle and storm out. I definitely would write up the entire incident in my report.

As far as the "f" word goes, the OP said she was young, and it is my experience that to "millenials", that word does not have the same connotation as it does to those of us who are older. (Much older in my case). I have tried, with no success, since my child was in middle school, to get her to stop using that word. She and all her friends use it as an adjective when talking to each other, on Facebook, Instagram and all the other social networks that I have no idea exist.

Shop2LiveinFL Wrote:
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> So, I am guessing that Sandra Sue will not be
> listening to Nine Inch Nails' "Closer" any time
> soon.

Unless they change the words to: "I want to play with you like an animal"..

Guess I'm not listening to Nine Inch Nails any time soon, either. Thanks for the tip.

What I would have done as a mystery shopper is left and come back later. I would do this for a couple of reasons. One is that this was an obvious confrontational event-not your normal mystery shopping experience. The second is because I like to do short reports - haha.

The digression on this thread reminds me of discussions about politics and religion. Each side feels their political party, religion and, in this case, morality standards are superior to the other and, in the end, no minds are ever changed. Could it be because nobody's right?

(heart)

PS
I couldn't help but think about the "anti-F-word faction" today when my DH was installing our new pantry doors (4). I don't think he missed a single one of the "naughty words" and, although I stopped listening as I sought shelter, I do believe he used several of them multiple times. He a good man and wasn't struck down and, hey, the new pantry doors look fab!
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I intend to live forever. So far, so good.

stilllearning Wrote:
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> PS
> I couldn't help but think about the "anti-F-word
> faction" today when my DH was installing our new
> pantry doors (4). I don't think he missed a single
> one of the "naughty words" and, although I stopped
> listening as I sought shelter, I do believe he
> used several of them multiple times. He a good man
> and wasn't struck down and, hey, the new pantry
> doors look fab!
> .

....and his audience was one that knows and understands him. I like a happy ending.

AustinMom Wrote:
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> ....and his audience was one that knows and
> understands him. I like a happy ending.

Oops! I accidentally 'posted' "nothing", which, come to think of it, might be refreshing!

(heart)

I intend to live forever. So far, so good.

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 06/25/2014 08:04PM by stilllearning.

nevermind

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 06/25/2014 10:25PM by ces1948.

First, about the "F" word. I have MS paper work with the whole word on it. Several actually. They are movie trailers and they give specific verbatim as to which trailer version was shown. I especially like when I have to report back verbatim which trailer was actually shown when the one they are looking for is not...

Second. I would have left and come back and started all over again at a different time. If that was not possible I just would have reported it as it happened. I would have explained the wait time and how professional the manager and her associate was in dispelling a, what could have been, violent and dangerous situation.

O.o o.O

Happily shopping New England and beyond!!!!!

Well, call me strange but I did raise my eyebrows seeing the F word in a post, mainly because I was surprised it wasn't moderated out, BUT I truly bristled when mshoulders described the people fist fighting in the next cubicle by the color of their skin. I have NO problem using color and other descriptors simply as a tool to differentiate (i.e. the African American woman, the blonde guy, the redhead, you get my point). I just didn't see the need for it in that particular post and it rubbed me the wrong way.

But let the curse words fly, I don't give a flying f**k.

And no, I am not African American.

I had the same reaction chigirl.

There are reasons that a body stays in motion
At the moment only demons come to mind

Shop2LiveinFL Wrote:
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> And what if I want to know the s-e-x of LisaSTL's
> baby?

We ALL want to know!
Congratulations, Lisa!!!

Ironically, the people who are so bothered by that (gasp!

) word are the ones drawing all of the attention to it and making it a *WAY* bigger deal than it ever needed or was intended to be. (Since I'm sure there was no intention there at all.) Several people hadn't even noticed it until the others pointed it out. If no one had felt it necessary to let us all know they were bothered, it wouldn't even be an issue.

Besides... even if someone *does* think it's a social faux pas for someone to slip a single, contextually correct usage of the 'f' word into conversation, it's poor etiquette to point it out. Not that using the 'f' word is the epitome of etiquette, or anything... Ha!

But if we'd all been sitting around in person and Nina told this story, would you have stopped her to scold her about her word choice? Because that would be rude. Just like if you would've pointed out that someone you were talking to ripped a fart.

Practitioner of the Nerdly Arts.

elcarev68 Wrote:
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> Shop2LiveinFL Wrote:
> --------------------------------------------------
> -----
> > And what if I want to know the s-e-x of
> LisaSTL's
> > baby?
>
> We ALL want to know!
> Congratulations, Lisa!!!

Sorry, we decided not to find out until it pops out.

There are reasons that a body stays in motion
At the moment only demons come to mind

Does it matter as long as it's got ten fingers, ten toes and isn't green?

Equal rights for others does not mean fewer rights for you. It's not pie.
"I prefer someone who burns the flag and then wraps themselves up in the Constitution over someone who burns the Constitution and then wraps themselves up in the flag." -Molly Ivins
Never try to teach a pig to sing. It's a waste of your time and it really annoys the pig.

and...what do you have against green people?

My idea of an agreeable person is a person who agrees with me.
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And I thought techman01 was the baby daddy.

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“I'm the one that's got to die when it's time for me to die, so let me live my life the way I want to.”
~ Jimi Hendrix

“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.” ~ Mark Twain

“To the well-organized mind, death is but the next great adventure.” ~ J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone

So does he. Don't tell anyone until we know for sure.

OH MY, this post in not only interesting but hilarious.... Like a soap opera, you check back frequently for changes... Next,

Who really is the baby daddy, with a guest appearance by Maury Povich!!!

O.o o.O

Happily shopping New England and beyond!!!!!

I agree that this is a distinct possibility.

Irene_L.A. Wrote:
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> Disliking any man that puts a woman down. . . . I wouldn't blame it on his experience, this
> hate for woman had to be there before.

LisaSTL Wrote:
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> Because you can prick your finger with a needle.
> And a @#$%& is a female dog. I don't think
> whatever program is designed to obscure so called
> "dirty" words can understand context.

> George Carlin — 'There are no bad words. Bad thoughts. Bad intentions, and wooooords.'

Remember George Carlin's "Seven Dirty Words"? While talking about the seven dirty words that couldn't be said on tv, he said, "You can prick your finger, but you can't finger your prick."

Loved him!

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I'm "Sandi" in the Middle!

I knew someone once who had two roosters. One was named Big Cock, and the other was Little Pecker.

Dirty words, or just describing common barnyard fowl?

I think that this is hysterical story and bet that we have all experienced something like it while MS'ing. Do you roll with the punches, enjoy the entertainment and then look forward to a difficult report or come back later? It just depends on your comfort level and schedule. Fowl (foul) language can always be described in acceptable, yet colorful ways, on reports and otherwise.

This thread just keeps getting funnier. For what my 2 cents are worth, I think I would have wanted to leave and come back later just to avoid being involved in anything unforeseen. With nut cases like that, you simply never know what can happen.

As far as the profanity goes, I always say I grew up hearing sh_t, h_ll and d_mn from my parents, so they're the ones I use.

StormCloud Wrote:
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> Ironically, the people who are so bothered by that
> (gasp!

) word are the ones drawing all of the
> attention to it and making it a *WAY* bigger deal
> than it ever needed or was intended to be. . . .
> Several people hadn't even noticed it until the
> others pointed it out. If no one had felt it
> necessary to let us all know they were bothered,
> it wouldn't even be an issue. . . . it's poor etiquette to point it out.
. . . would you have stopped her to scold her
> about her word choice? Because that would be
> rude.

This is not a break room. While people have fun in these posts, we are here mostly to learn. If someone had made a comment about any other group other than those of us who don't like profanity, it would not have been considered a faux pas by most, but would have been commented about as something out of line. So, how do you expect a person who would like someone to be more careful in speech to comment on same? Some of you seem to be attempting to marginalize people who want more manners in speech. Ignored bad behavior only becomes worse. We, too, would like courtesy shown toward our own sensibilities.

Oh geez. I stopped reading this thread after the 3rd or 4th post. Why did I come back in and try to read again?

There are reasons that a body stays in motion
At the moment only demons come to mind

My bad. I have always thought this was a break room because we all work alone. Since I was here for the fun, it is time to leave.

I consider it a break room. And profanity is one of the things from which I desire a break.

When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower.
Alexander Den Heijer

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