@dspeakes wrote:
and then was dogpiled on with accusations of having no sense of humor.
@bgriffin wrote:
@dspeakes wrote:
and then was dogpiled on with accusations of having no sense of humor.
That's because what I did was rude and disrespectful and I'm an arrogant ass. Thanks for pointing it out.
@Eric in Tampa wrote:
Dspeakes, really? REALLY? For someone that is supposed to have a good rationale on this forum, I am a bit disappointed in your response:
"I personally think too much is made about the N word, which would clearly convey hostility toward blacks."
Wow, if that's not a contradicting sentence or what? You also go on to ask if the salesman where black. My question is, are you black? You also go on to mention that "I'm more concerned with hostile attitudes and discrimination than with the word used to refer to someone who is not actually present to be offended by it. I don't need to be offended on someone else's behalf. I think blacks probably have less issue with being referred to as "ni**ers" than they would with being referred to as "f-ing African-Americans."
Again, how would you know what one culture tends to think? Do you really believe that the African-American culture would think less of being called a n**ger than anything else, let alone a "f**king African-American?" That is just like me saying that all women, regardless of their ethnicity, age or background, is accurately portrayed in today's society with stereotypes passed down through generations that continually are reinforced. Yeah, you think that I would think too much of that? Do you think that I would have less issue with that in speaking with someone either in private or in public?
You are some piece of work, Dspeakes. Thanks for letting us know how you really feel about cultures, as well as what you DON'T OBVIOUSLY KNOW ABOUT CULTURES.
@dspeakes wrote:
I have a client from New York who refers to gays as "fags" which jolts me because I have several gays and lesbians in my acquaintance (and have gay characters in my books) and around here, calling someone a fag is not a term of endearment, but I have not judged him on it because I have not felt disgust from him when he used the word and I suspect this may be a regional thing. Not living in New York myself, I don't know if it is common to use that word instead of "gay" or "queer." So until I know more, I am reluctant to judge him for using a word that may be nothing more than the commonly used term where he came from. If I ever sense an attitude from him about it, I will call him down on the attitude. But I'm not going to judge him or presume him to be homophobic because of the word he used.
@chigirl777 wrote:
When I hear the n-word, I am not offended on behalf of all black people. I am offended on behalf of all people.
@chigirl777 wrote:
@dspeakes wrote:
I have a client from New York who refers to gays as "fags" which jolts me because I have several gays and lesbians in my acquaintance (and have gay characters in my books) and around here, calling someone a fag is not a term of endearment, but I have not judged him on it because I have not felt disgust from him when he used the word and I suspect this may be a regional thing. Not living in New York myself, I don't know if it is common to use that word instead of "gay" or "queer." So until I know more, I am reluctant to judge him for using a word that may be nothing more than the commonly used term where he came from. If I ever sense an attitude from him about it, I will call him down on the attitude. But I'm not going to judge him or presume him to be homophobic because of the word he used.
You're unsure whether fag or queer might not be offensive but rather "regional"?
SMH.
@rainy wrote:
@chigirl777 wrote:
When I hear the n-word, I am not offended on behalf of all black people. I am offended on behalf of all people.
That's very PC and noble of you, but I tend to not get my knickers in a knot and get offended on behalf of civilization over something that the people directly involved aren't even offended over. So many people express feigned moral outrage over things like this and ironically don't even have one black person in their life they could call a true friend (not saying you don't).
@chigirl777 wrote:
What difference does it make if someone has a black friend, gay friend, Muslim friend, etc in their lives? Offensive is offensive. Just because I'm not black doesn't mean the n-word isn't offensive to me, and just because I'm gay doesn't mean it's not offensive when another gay person uses the word "queer." So yes, I am "directly involved in it." Do I get to play now or am I just still feigning moral outrage?
@dspeakes wrote:
What Eric did was attach the end of one sentence to the beginning of the following sentence. I think he misread the paragraph, got upset, was sloppy in transcribing it, and then ranted against what he thought I said.
I don't think he did it deliberately. . . . .
@dixiewhiskey wrote:
Y'all need to chill for real
P.S. OP what did you end up doing?
I'm laughing really hard at this right now.. People are looking at me all funny...@VickyS wrote:
not looking to enter the "whitey" club.