Should you ever ask how much someone makes....

You may not know anyone, but a lot of us have known each other in a way for years and a fair number of us have met face to face. Personally, I find it more odd to be asked by a stranger than a friend.

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I've probably asked a few no-no questions and stuck my foot in my mouth a few times. I've bounced around from a few different jobs since getting laid off months ago and then spent some time away, yada yada.

This place can get a little nutty. There was a forum member who use to haggle me but I can't even recall the persons shopper name. I think I may have toggled them.

At any rate, this place is still quite valuable if you dig around and just blatantly ignore (now that's an oxymoron) the ones who try to chap your arse.

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@jainsuchi wrote:

That was a simple fun question. I don't know any of you personally or face to face. If I did, I would never ask. Don't we all share what we got for a particular assignment? I didn't know, a question like that on a forum where no one knows anyone personally could be so offending. Please feel free to not answer if you don't like the question.

You are absolutely right about the thread you started. To you, it was a simple fun question. To many of us, it seemed a rude question. I think what struck me as rude was that you shared none of your own information until AFTER other posters commented. So you want an answer but shared nothing.

As for feeling free to not answer if you don't like the question, feel free to not join a discussion thread to reference a different thread and argue about it if you don't like what is being expressed. It's not so easy to not comment when you don't like the topic, is it?

uptightedness

Jeez!!..Thank you for all your replies. I had a fun time on this forum for a month. Learnt a lot of things. My apologies for offending some people's sensibilities. I really never ever wanted that. This is my last post on the forum. It was great knowing you all. I joined a few companies due to some valuable contributions from members. Valuable lessons on time management and shopping tips.(Thank you Mountaincacher88 and spicy1)

I am leaving because I don't want to post something and worry about offending anyone. Maybe I chose the wrong words for asking a question, but a post as simple as this brought out questions of class, manners, respect and what not!! The other day someone had posted something about what they felt was an achievement for them and I was surprised people belittling the post and saying those don't count as achievements. That was nasty. My energies would be well spent in finding some good jobs rather than going through posts like those.

Thank you all and happy shopping!

Ranges of wages and salaries are published. We all presumably earn varying amounts of money in this industry. We may have other jobs. We can scatter social hints about our presumed income, to make a statement or to invite a disclosure of assets. Quietly, we can investigate. Is this better or worse than a blatant inquiry?

I have no opinion.

Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished. - Lao-Tzu

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I think your question is personal and tends to show the way we're raised. My raising included learning it is not right to ask a woman's age weight or how much she makes. I understand your not thinking much of it but I thought you were wanting to see if this industry is viable for you. then you tell us you make very decent money, had you offered that first the question wouldn't have been so bold for a newcomer and stranger to the forum. Many times it's the way the same question is asked, but on a forum with many different opinions, this is opening a discussion as to right or wrong and of course we are all going to chime in.....your posting on a public forum and expecting answers, some you may like, but many you won't.....you seem nice enough, too bad you got off to a bad start, there are many things to learn here.

Live consciously....

I personally don't care if it's considered right or wrong, when people are face to face. In this forum I think people can ask whatever they want to. If you don't like the question, don't answer it. People writing here are all ages and races, and come from different parts of the country and maybe the world. I don't think we should be projecting our beliefs on this topic to anyone else.

I wouldn't be so bold as to say the OP "got off to a bad start' as much as I would say some ideas are old fashioned, stick in the mud, I want to orchestrate what is acceptable based on my ideas and feelings toward openness based on my upbringing and I'm a woman of a certain age and that makes me special.

@rebshopin wrote:

I personally don't care if it's considered right or wrong, when people are face to face. In this forum I think people can ask whatever they want to. If you don't like the question, don't answer it. People writing here are all ages and races, and come from different parts of the country and maybe the world. I don't think we should be projecting our beliefs on this topic to anyone else.

We are NOT face to face nor do we know the newcomers...face to face means looking another in the eye.
Many of us have been on the forum for years helping others and have met one way or another...your being new and knowing as you stated above you don't care what's wrong or right is quite telling of who you are.
Threads are written to be answered or we wouldn't have a forum discussion with different opinions. I trust the shoppers who post and help others while not begging for our personal info......and I don't care whether you like it or not. Since you don't care, how much do you make per month.......oh right none of my business.......

Live consciously....

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grrrrrrouchy

@rebshopin wrote:

People writing here are all ages and races,

Wondering what race has to do with it, especially since most of us do not know the race/ethnicity (or for that matter, the age and socio-economic status) of other posters.

"Let me offer you my definition of social justice: I keep what I earn and you keep what you earn. Do you disagree? Well then tell me how much of what I earn belongs to you - and why?” ~Walter Williams

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Culture. Culture is probably a better word than race. When people use the word race, others get nuts. Culture is the word they teach us in college, that they should teach in junior high, to describe the basic and wide differences in our belief systems. Our culture is basically the ideas, and how we use those ideas, that describe the world as we perceive it. Oh, gotta go, my sweet potato fries are done!

@spicy1 wrote:

grrrrrrouchy

Didn't have my carbs today.....

Live consciously....

@rebshopin wrote:

If you don't like the question, don't answer it.

And just as much if you don't like my response then don't read it.