There is a long list of things I would like to accomplish, so if I came back in another life I would have to go through a personal transformation before beginning the next life. My transformation would change me and only me. During my change process, I would lose avarice, illusions of importance, meanness, hyper-criticism, and the need to control others. There may be other qualities that I should shed during that time. Assuming that my thorough personal transformation does not require all of eternity, I can emerge and enter the next phase as a person who has no need to criticize, judge, or control other people. I am getting the merest glimmer of how my life can be...
Now, I live within my own life, and others live within their own life boundaries. Free of the old, heavy burdens associated with the inane and often hidden and/or convoluted attempts to control others, I am free to live humbly, decently, gently, and kindly. I still have the skills to fend off the self-appointed judges, critics, over-controllers, and other pests. But I do not need them as much as I did before my transformation. Now, I am attracting another sort of person. People who are farther on the journey are available to mentor me. They demonstrate effective ways to live and they show me how to reach the next phase of better living...
And on it goes...
My garden in England is full of eating-out places, for heat waves, warm September evenings, or lunch on a chilly Christmas morning. (Mary Quant)