@BornInNYC wrote:
I'm sure it must be aggravating to have a shop cancelled from the schedulers perspective, but I do agree that using the word "....flaked" in that context is incredibly unprofessional. It's not like they thought you couldn't see it, and I agree about not having to threaten, there's a nice way to explain to someone that he/she will have trouble getting future assignments if the shop wasn't completed... things happen, anyone could've had a legitimate excuse, chances are that person would've acted the same way to the OP....now what if one has an emergency, can't make it, and then is treated in that manner ... a good, qualified shopper, may be turned off to that company entirely.
(not to say you're not a good qualified shopper! i'm sure you are... just trying to present an objective perspective

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The word "flake" is the word used in this business to describe a shopper who has taken a job and failed to complete it for other than emergency reasons. It's a lot quicker and more efficient to say "he flaked" than to say "he took a job and didn't do it and left me holding the bag to find another shopper at the last minute and for more money." Everyone knows that "flake" means that big long sentence.
There is no reason to find a "nice" way to say, "Hey, nimrod, don't accept a shop if you're not going to do it" because all that is already in the agreement we sign when we sign up with a company. They already told you that, you agreed to it, and you broke your contract with them. Why should they be nice about it? You cost them time and money by "flaking."
It's the word that is used, so if you don't want to see it on your job board, don't flake.
The thing you're missing here, BornInNYC, is that apparently the excuse was not deemed "legitimate" because most MSC's will be forgiving of a true emergency. If OP had a death in the family, an accident, hospitalization, even a car breakdown -- I think they would have used some term other than "family reasons" to explain why they didn't do the shop. They would have said "family emergency" or "my car broke down and I couldn't get there." "Family reasons" sounds like they preferred to watch a movie with the kids, or had a spat with their spouse, or a relative came to visit. Family comes first when there is a crisis. If you want someone to pay you for your time, you need to put the job first for the hour or two it takes to get it done unless there is an actual or potential emergency involving life and limb that was not under the control of the shopper. And while an MSC might forgive a first emergency, if a shopper keeps canceling shops because of recurring emergencies, even if each was a true emergency, they will consider that shopper a flake for not having backup plans (alternate babysitters, for example, or alternate means of transportation).
Time to build a bigger bridge.