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@HonnyBrown wrote:
Hi VVT,
We don't know our futures. We can plan them as dismally as we wish, but one small thing can turn those plans sideways and life is great again.
I am so sorry that your boyfriend was a d!ck. It's unfortunate that they are a part of life, but, in some way, he made you a better person.
My ex took 9 years of my life that I will never get back. A pure waste.
@VVT wrote:
@HonnyBrown wrote:
Hi VVT,
We don't know our futures. We can plan them as dismally as we wish, but one small thing can turn those plans sideways and life is great again.
I am so sorry that your boyfriend was a d!ck. It's unfortunate that they are a part of life, but, in some way, he made you a better person.
My ex took 9 years of my life that I will never get back. A pure waste.
I especially appreciate your comment. I know my 7 month deal is a joke compared to the firm and complete commitment of a marriage. My friend who is currently in an unpleasant 5-year marriage makes sure I’m aware of that (in the sweetest and funniest way (“And ANOTHER thing!”)). But dude, I just can’t get over my own arrogance at thinking I could make THIS one work. THIS guy will make me happy, we’ve known each other since my virginity existed, and if he doesn’t work out, I’m just going to suck it up and pretend it did until my mother dies so she doesn’t think I’m a lesbian.
(That question, by the way, HAS been asked. Out of worry. Turns out Mom is not okay with gays.)
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Completely agreed on the respect issue, but what is "full love"? Just asking. Frankly, 30 is the magic age for a woman and 40 for a man. Statistically, your odds go down after that. There is no perfect man, no perfect woman, and those who wait for them will likely be sorely disappointed (not everyone, Irene.)@nolimitem wrote:
This is the most heartwarming post of all time. I just want to sit in a room with all you women and empower each other. I'm 33 and single. And I am not going to settle for anyone who doesn't treat me respectfully and with full love. It's not worth it.
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Agree with you, Irene. Repeated infidelity isn't going to change. Serial cheaters and beaters have issues that are deep-seated and likely require professional help to resolve.@Irene_L.A. wrote:
p.s. the grass doesn't get greener when one is cheated on.
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According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics (bls.gov), the average age for first marriages for Jewish women is 27 and 29 for Jewish men. It's significantly less for Hispanics and Caucasians, and slightly higher for black women. The most significant factor affecting age is the education of the woman; college-educated women tend to get married later. Interesting to me is the divorce factor. The education of the woman has a relatively insignificant effect on divorce, but college-educated men are least likely to divorce, regardless of the woman's education. Black women (remembering that they marry later) are by far the most likely to divorce, especially those who marry men that have no post-high school education, or if they have none. Asian women married to college-educated men are the least likely to split.@Irene_L.A. wrote:
My limited (not really) experience in today's world tells me most are marrying later if at all.